How to Lose Legitimacy

How to Lose Legitimacy

Years ago, I worked with a professional group that had thrived for years as an open community. Anyone could show up to the monthly meetings, share ideas, and contribute to discussions. It was messy sometimes, but that openness created real value for everyone. Then the...
It’s a Two-Way Street

It’s a Two-Way Street

My client’s struggling with his boss. “She just doesn’t give me any feedback,” he complained. “I honestly don’t think she cares about my growth.” I asked, “Do you ask her for feedback?” “Well… of course. I mean, I ask how I’m doing, and every time I...
The Unwritten Rules of Power

The Unwritten Rules of Power

The plane was delayed. Our seats had been changed, and my niece and I couldn’t sit together. And no, the gate agent assured me, my frequent flyer status didn’t apply here. I was jet-lagged, irritated, and afraid I was going to miss our connection in London. As I...
Feed the Platform

Feed the Platform

When I lived in Portland, there was a curious stretch along NW 23rd Avenue where three Italian restaurants stood right next to each other. To me, it made no sense. Why would a restaurant choose to open right beside its competition? Wouldn’t it be smarter to go where...
When Power Steps Outside the Lines

When Power Steps Outside the Lines

People stop at red lights. They wear seat belts. They stand in line and wait their turn. It’s remarkable, really—how much of our daily life runs on willing self-restraint. We obey not through force or surveillance, but through a quiet, internalized consent to follow...